You can’t “snap” someone out of a bipolar episode. Mania, hypomania, or depression are medical mood states—not choices or attitudes. Trying to reason, argue, or shock someone out of it usually backfires.

What Actually Helps During an Episode

During mania or hypomania, the person may feel euphoric, invincible, or irritable. They often resist help. Instead of confrontation, stay calm and avoid power struggles. Gently encourage them to contact their psychiatrist. If they’re impulsive—spending recklessly, not sleeping, or acting erratically—help reduce risks. Remove access to credit cards or car keys if safety is a concern.

During bipolar depression, they may feel hopeless, exhausted, or withdrawn. Don’t say “cheer up” or “just try harder.” Offer quiet support: “I’m here. Do you need help calling your doctor?” Encourage small steps—like eating or taking a shower—but don’t pressure.

In both cases, stick to their treatment plan. If they have a crisis plan, follow it. If they’re a danger to themselves or others, seek emergency help immediately.

Avoid blaming, shaming, or minimizing their experience. Phrases like “You’re overreacting” or “This is just drama” increase shame and isolation.

Recovery takes time—often days or weeks. Medication adjustments, rest, and professional care are what truly resolve episodes. Your role isn’t to fix them, but to support them with patience and compassion.

If you’re close to someone with bipolar disorder, learn their early warning signs. Help them stay consistent with meds, sleep, and appointments before crises hit. Prevention is far more effective than intervention.

Remember: bipolar episodes are brain-based, not behavioral. Kindness, structure, and professional care—not tough love—are what lead to stability.