When supporting someone with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), it’s just as important to know what not to do as it is to know what helps. PTSD involves heightened anxiety, trauma triggers, and emotional sensitivity, so the wrong approach can unintentionally worsen symptoms. One of the most critical things to avoid is minimizing their experience. Statements like “It wasn’t that bad” or “Just get over it” can invalidate their trauma and damage trust. Instead, acknowledge their feelings without judgment.

Never force them to talk about their trauma before they are ready. Pressuring someone to “open up” or explain their triggers can cause emotional flooding, panic, or withdrawal. Allow them to share at their own pace. Similarly, avoid surprising or startling them on purpose, even as a joke. Sudden noises, unexpected touches, or pranks can trigger a fight-or-flight response and reinforce feelings of danger.

Do not take emotional reactions personally. PTSD can cause irritability, withdrawal, or emotional numbing; these responses are symptoms, not reflections of how they feel about you. Avoid responding with frustration or guilt-tripping statements like “Why are you always like this?” as it can increase shame and isolation.

Another key mistake is ignoring boundaries. People with PTSD often set limits to feel safe—this may include personal space, touch, or certain topics. Violating these boundaries reinforces distrust and insecurity. Also avoid assuming their triggers or telling them how they “should” feel. Trauma is highly individual, and assumptions can lead to misunderstanding and invalidation.

Finally, don’t attempt to “fix” them or offer amateur therapy. Well-meaning advice like “You just need to think positive” oversimplifies a complex condition. Encourage professional help without pushing or controlling their choices.

Supporting someone with PTSD means being patient, respectful, and aware of behaviors that can unintentionally harm. Knowing what to avoid creates a safer environment where healing can begin.